27: True or False: Addressing Assumptions About Us - Do we fight? Who cooks more? Are we rich? Did we save sex for marriage? & so much more

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mari---trey_1_09-17-2024_191103:

Here we go.

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Another Wednesday.

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Another week.

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Another week.

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Another pod episode.

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What's what am I doing today, Mari?

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You pulled me on.

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I pulled you on.

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We are doing assumptions about us,

addressing assumptions about us,

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whether they are true or false.

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Okay.

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I have only briefly glanced at these.

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I asked this on my story a few

weeks ago and I don't believe I

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have shared them with you yet.

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So this will be a pretty fresh take.

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I think you shared like one

or two with me, but yeah.

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But before we jump in, how are you doing?

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Oh my goodness.

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Let's have a heart to heart.

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Um, I'm joking.

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It doesn't, I'm joking.

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It doesn't have to be a heart

to heart, but, um, we've had a

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kind of a crazy past few weeks.

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Yeah.

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Let's see.

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For starters, we're recording this.

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Tuesday night and it's going out

Wednesday morning and I usually like to

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be a little bit more on top of things.

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It looks like, but we

have been on the road.

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Um, I love to count the number

of days we spent in our home

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traveling, not on the road.

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We're not like road tripping, but

like we've been out of the house.

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I mean, it's, it all started in August

3rd, like very, very beginning of

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August or was it the end of June?

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It was before that.

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It was, it was like.

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It was before that.

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Before the NEC Congress.

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Yeah, before Nationally

Encrusted Congress.

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So it's like.

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It's been since then that

it's been super back to back.

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Since like July 12th.

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Maybe we've spent like.

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That makes me want to cry.

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Two weeks combined at our house.

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Maybe 30 weeks combined in

our house since July 12th.

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No wonder we feel so frazzled, dude.

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Yeah, we're all over the place.

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July 12th?

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We are all over the place.

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That's been a long time.

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Yeah.

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Is that two months?

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August?

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September?

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I think it's two months.

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Feels like it could be six.

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Yeah, it feels like six.

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Um, but yeah, we just got home.

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We got home on Sunday

night from New Sheraton.

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Yeah, we were visiting your

family, which was great.

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In Washington.

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In Washington.

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The state.

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But you were gone for like three weeks.

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You had a friend's trip before that.

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I was gone for like three weeks.

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Yeah.

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And then we met in Washington and then

we had another friend's trip and then

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we just both got sick and stayed an

extra week that we weren't expecting.

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Which was nice.

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Yeah, it was kind of nice.

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With your family.

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Yeah.

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Got a little behind on work, but.

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Yeah.

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Super, super behind.

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But here we are.

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But that doesn't matter.

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No, it matters.

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It matters, but it's fine.

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We're going to ignore that.

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Okay.

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But I am kind of excited to get

into this convo today because I

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love these combos with you when

it's just kind of like on a whim and

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just talking about real life stuff.

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So I'm going to read out some assumptions.

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Basically how I framed this was like,

I mean, I don't know that I really

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have to explain what assumptions

are, but like things that you.

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AKA the people that follow me on

Instagram, I'm assuming also listeners

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like perceive about Trey and I and

our relationship and our life and

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either what we're like or what we

love or things that we do or whatever.

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And we're going to talk about them, see if

they resonate, see if they're true or not.

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Um, and just kind of like spill the truth.

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About who we really are.

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Alright, great.

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You wanna read some?

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Yes.

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Number one.

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You never get into fights.

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Uh, they must not be married.

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Whoever.

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You must not know what marriage is like.

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Of course we fight.

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Yeah, so that is false.

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Yes.

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We do get into fights.

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I would say that like one thing about

us is that we don't, I mean, not that

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anybody likes fighting, but we like hate.

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Fighting with each other like we

hate being upset with each other.

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I think that's everybody.

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I think that's everybody but also We

also hate holding on to the fight.

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Yeah, no one likes fighting Yeah, no

one likes fighting But I think it's

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very common for people to just be like

so mad that they're just like well I'm

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going to, you know, hold his grudge.

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You're like, I'm going to stick it

to him until he knows how bad it was.

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And I think like, I mean, you stick it.

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It's just, it's just short and sweet.

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It's short.

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I stick it.

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It's just quick and painful.

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And then it's over.

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Um, but this is, this

is what's funny, Trey.

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And I feel like I've said

this to you before, but.

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What's funny is like you're my best friend

and you are like the number one person I

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like process my emotions with You being

my husband, of course and so like when i'm

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mad at you or when you've made me sad like

You are the first person I want to go to.

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Like, I want to still function.

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Well, no, no.

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And it's like, I'm mad at you,

but like, I want you to hug me

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because I'm comforted by your hug,

but you're the person I'm mad at.

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And so I'm just like, if we just get

over the mad part as quick as possible,

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we can get to the comforting part and

then we can go back to the happy part.

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Yeah.

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Well, so our fights are very quick.

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We definitely fight.

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Yeah.

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But our, but our fights are very quick.

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Usually.

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Pretty quick.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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We're not weeks on end.

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Yeah.

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And it's not like we

fight big all the time.

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I would say like, we don't have a

problem with confrontation to like, sure,

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we'll bicker here and there a little

bit to just kind of be like, whatever,

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just your classic mirrored stuff.

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That's not how I worded it.

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That's not what I, this is what I meant.

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Well, you didn't, I, blah, blah,

you know, listen to my words,

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listen to what I'm saying.

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Yeah.

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That's not what I meant.

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Yeah, just, just miscommunication,

just stupid stuff, nothing big

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really, but we're best friends.

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So we get over it.

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Okay.

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Number two, you never shop on Timu.

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That is 1000 percent true.

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I have never shopped on Timu before.

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I don't think I knew what Timu

was until like, he didn't know

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it maybe a couple months ago.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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I've, I don't feel like

I've ever had a need for it.

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I mean, I have Amazon.

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And Timu, if you like,

is sketchier, so, nope.

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No comment.

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No Timu.

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Oh, there's the next one.

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This is the one that actually fits here.

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Let me cover this up.

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Trevor, Trevor treats you like a princess.

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I hope Trevor doesn't

treat you like a princess.

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Trevor does treat me like a princess.

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Um, I'm assuming this person meant Trey

treats you like a princess, um, and.

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That would be true, in my opinion.

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Yeah, I try.

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I try.

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Um, so newsflash, my husband's

name is Trey, not Trevor.

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But yeah, I mean, I feel so taken

care of and pampered in the best way.

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In so many ways by Trey,

he makes my life easy and

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yeah, I mean I couldn't not be married.

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I'm glad I try.

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Uh, okay.

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Next you live a perfectly holistic life.

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Nah, no, that's false.

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I mean, I mean, yeah, I would say

like, there's definitely efforts,

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but like a perfectly holistic life.

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No, I mean, we just started learning.

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I started learning about all this like

three years ago and really started

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implementing just the different

things that I've learned in the

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past like year, year and a half.

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So there's a long ways to go.

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And I think when it comes to holistic

living, clean living, um, There's a

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range there are those people and I'm not

saying either is bad but like they're the

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people who are gonna go to one extreme

of just like the full extent the full

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full full extent of like worrying about

every single like Ingredient in any item

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in their home or any sort of thing that

could possibly cause cancer which at

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this point is like everything and and

sometimes You know, the emotional stress

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that comes with that is almost worse

than the products you're encountering.

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And so there's, there's

always that extent.

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Um, and I know that was more about

like toxins and stuff, but, you

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know, holistic of just like, have

your cow, your homestead, you know.

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Swallowing the raw beef liver.

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I don't think I could get there.

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Yeah.

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We do a lot of things that

aren't to the extreme.

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Yeah.

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But like we try and implement

things into our day to day life.

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Just the basics.

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Yeah.

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Just like natural things,

natural, um, habits.

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I don't know what to call it.

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Like natural living habits.

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I feel like the word holistic has

become such a buzzword where it's like,

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I don't even know what that means.

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It means.

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Yeah.

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And I feel like it means so much.

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And that's why I feel

like holistic and crunchy.

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Yes.

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Like people like, yeah, people like

bundle so many terms into holistic.

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Right.

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Because even clean living and holistic

living can be different things.

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Right.

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Whereas clean living talks a

little bit more about toxins.

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Holistic living is a

little bit more about that.

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Like literally holistic, which means

like all encompassing, like everything.

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Um, I feel like it's usually

attributed more to like, Okay.

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Like I said, like homesteading

and like making all your own stuff

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from scratch and, um, nose to tail

eating and all this kind of stuff.

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And I would say there's a lot that I'm

so attracted to and that we incorporate.

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I mean, I cook almost

everything from scratch.

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We literally have, like, almost nothing.

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That's like freezer or

packaged in our house.

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But I'm also, and I, and I

try to be careful of and seed

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oils and everything, but like.

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If a snack that we buy has a seed

oil, it's okay for the one time.

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Yeah.

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And we eat out and it's not

like the end of the world.

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We try and, you know, we try and do things

as healthy as possible with like the

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way that our lifestyle allows right now.

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And if we're able to incorporate more

in some seasons and less than other

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seasons, we're not stressing about it.

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So definitely not perfect.

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Um, but always.

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Loving being in that growth mindset

and doing as much as we can.

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And Trey's really like jumping on board,

which is just like, you're the best.

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What's next?

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Uh, together you own 20 plus rosaries.

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Um, I, I don't, I don't

think I could count.

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I mean, I have like two.

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Well, no.

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Okay.

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You may be, I have, I

have one in my truck.

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And one that I like keep in my

briefcase and kind of with me.

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I mean, if you count the number of

rosaries we have in the house, yes, we

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have every single West coast Catholic

rosary in the house and probably more

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that we've been gifted over the years.

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So yeah.

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I mean, we definitely have more than 20.

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There's definitely more than 20 for sure.

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And, and I actually use at least

half of West Coast Catholics designs.

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Like I have, I have one in my purse.

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I have one in my car.

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I have one under my, I have

like two in my bed, one under

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my pillow, one on my nightstand.

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Like I have a bunch, I love them all.

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So I use them all the time.

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That's true.

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Um, oh, cute.

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Not an assumption.

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Just truth.

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Y'all are relationship

role models for so many.

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Thank you so much.

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Oh, thanks.

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So sweet.

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Oh, another 1 for you

never have big fights.

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We already answered that.

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Oh, my gosh.

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Another 1.

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You guys don't have

fights or disagreements.

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Wow.

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I mean, one thing is like, we're not

going to publicly fight on Instagram.

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True.

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True.

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You're not ever going to see our fights,

but that doesn't mean we don't fight.

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Yes.

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Just a reminder that Instagram

is a highlight reel sometimes.

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Um, okay.

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You guys are really well off economically.

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This is an interesting one.

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I feel like I've gotten this one before.

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Okay.

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There's another one here.

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You and your business are pretty rich.

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So there was a few, I think when

it comes to family finances.

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Yeah, and uh, I definitely don't

consider us rich I think most

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of my friends make more than me.

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Yeah, like I don't consider us rich

I would say like our business does

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really well We're really proud of the

work that we do and our work is so

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unconventional to where like we're

not dependent on a Regular salary

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job, like anybody else would be.

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And so when, especially with the

content creator side, when you're

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an entrepreneur and when you're a

content creator, you have so much more

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control of the income that's coming in.

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Whereas like you can do an extra push

for another sale for the business, or

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I can choose to become an affiliate

for another company and start promoting

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something that I'm, I've been using and

loving and make some commission there.

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So it can be a little bit more flexible.

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Um, but.

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No, we're not.

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We're not rich.

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I would say we're pretty average.

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Yeah.

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And honest, like, if

we're being honest, right.

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About like, what the economic

state is and what people make.

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Yeah, we're pretty average.

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However, I would say like, I'm really

happy with, you Yeah, how we were doing.

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And I feel like we're able to do so much

still with what comes in financially.

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We're still able to travel a lot.

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Like I still buy clothes when

the new season comes around,

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like you go golfing all the time.

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We're extremely blessed.

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Um, and so, Yeah, I mean, we're not

like not doing well, but like in

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real terms of like, are you rich?

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Do we, are we just floating in money?

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No, we're not.

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And I think the other thing too is

we, both Mara and I are more on the

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spender side instead of the saver

side of the spectrum, I would say.

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So, I mean, we spend a lot, so it

might look, because we spend more,

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maybe, than we save, like, I don't

know, like, it's not like some, I

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feel like different couples have

different mindsets about money.

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Like, some are, like, very heavily

saving, and so they might not

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look on the outside as being rich.

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But they are making a lot

and they just save a lot.

348

: 00:14:51

Yeah, we, you know, we, I think we

spend a lot or like we're more on

349

: 00:14:56

the spendy side than the saving side.

350

: 00:14:58

Yeah.

351

: 00:14:59

I mean, we definitely saved every month.

352

: 00:15:01

We, we have different, we're not going

to go into our budgeting plans, but like.

353

: 00:15:06

Like we have savings, we have different

buckets for different purposes, and

354

: 00:15:11

then we have our regular account.

355

: 00:15:13

And once we have saved the amount

that we have allotted to save,

356

: 00:15:16

then we're like, okay, great.

357

: 00:15:18

Do you want to go on a trip?

358

: 00:15:19

Like, do you want to go golfing?

359

: 00:15:20

Do you want to, yeah, do a home project.

360

: 00:15:23

Like we buy gifts for our

family every birthday.

361

: 00:15:26

Like, so there's just different

things that we spend money on.

362

: 00:15:29

And the other thing I'd say with

our business, uh, with West Coast

363

: 00:15:33

Catholic, we've prioritized our time.

364

: 00:15:37

Instead of like our paychecks.

365

: 00:15:39

And so we've, uh, like when we were

able to, we've been able to hire on team

366

: 00:15:43

members to reduce the amount of time

that is required of us for the business.

367

: 00:15:48

Uh, and that's been our, up to this

point, like that's how we've prioritized

368

: 00:15:53

our business finances is buying back

our time and investing in employees

369

: 00:15:58

and team members, uh, instead of

just giving us bigger paychecks.

370

: 00:16:01

Right?

371

: 00:16:02

Like we have, Four to

six people on our team.

372

: 00:16:05

Right.

373

: 00:16:06

And four of 'em are full-time salaries.

374

: 00:16:09

We could be paying ourselves

a much bigger salary.

375

: 00:16:12

Yeah.

376

: 00:16:13

But we're choosing to invest in

the business and our employees

377

: 00:16:16

and our team and so, and get

some our time back and Yeah.

378

: 00:16:20

Which is worth everything.

379

: 00:16:22

Yep.

380

: 00:16:23

Um.

381

: 00:16:24

Okay.

382

: 00:16:24

Next question.

383

: 00:16:26

Not a question.

384

: 00:16:28

Okay.

385

: 00:16:29

Next assumption.

386

: 00:16:30

Assumption.

387

: 00:16:31

You guys didn't wait for

marriage as a couple.

388

: 00:16:34

I'm assuming that means sex.

389

: 00:16:37

Yes.

390

: 00:16:38

I'm assuming Mari and I,

we did wait until marriage.

391

: 00:16:42

Yeah.

392

: 00:16:43

Yeah.

393

: 00:16:43

Honestly, we did it.

394

: 00:16:44

And honestly, it's the best thing ever.

395

: 00:16:45

Like hands down.

396

: 00:16:47

Did we struggle in chastity at times?

397

: 00:16:51

Yes.

398

: 00:16:52

But were we able to save sex for marriage?

399

: 00:16:54

Yes.

400

: 00:16:55

And that's something I'm so proud of.

401

: 00:16:57

And three years later,

it's the best thing ever.

402

: 00:17:01

So highly recommend, um, games together.

403

: 00:17:05

Yeah.

404

: 00:17:06

I mean, yeah, not that like we do it

all the time, we really like to play

405

: 00:17:11

Catan with our friends and our family

and we have a few like two person games.

406

: 00:17:16

Yeah, we have some card

games that we like to.

407

: 00:17:19

I wouldn't say we're like

huge board game fanatics.

408

: 00:17:23

But we love Catan, and we

like a few card games, so.

409

: 00:17:27

Mm hmm.

410

: 00:17:29

Okay, next, you have a

very healthy marriage.

411

: 00:17:33

I think so.

412

: 00:17:34

I think so.

413

: 00:17:35

We were just talking about this.

414

: 00:17:36

Was it today?

415

: 00:17:37

I think we were just I

don't Was that today?

416

: 00:17:40

I think we were talking about I don't

even know what you're about to say, so.

417

: 00:17:42

Okay.

418

: 00:17:43

I think we were talking about this

today, or yesterday, or something,

419

: 00:17:46

about how like, We know we're

not perfect and we know that we

420

: 00:17:50

don't have a perfect marriage,

but like, of course we're biased.

421

: 00:17:53

We feel like we just have

the best marriage ever.

422

: 00:17:57

Like, we just like, are best friends.

423

: 00:18:01

We love each other so much.

424

: 00:18:03

We're like, So on the same page all

the time, like we support each other.

425

: 00:18:08

We, like we said earlier, like when

we argue, like the bottom line is we

426

: 00:18:12

just like, want to reconcile again.

427

: 00:18:14

We like try and do everything we can,

I feel like to love each other in

428

: 00:18:18

the best way that we can genuinely.

429

: 00:18:21

And I feel like that brings a lot of joy.

430

: 00:18:23

And.

431

: 00:18:24

Beauty and trust and like just

like goodness to our marriage.

432

: 00:18:28

Yeah, I agree.

433

: 00:18:29

I think we have the best marriage So true

Another one on purity during dating we

434

: 00:18:37

kind of already answered that one also

if anybody's struggling with chastity I

435

: 00:18:41

have a really great highlight on Instagram

if you look through my Instagram story

436

: 00:18:44

highlights They're kind of a mess, but

find the one that's called chastity.

437

: 00:18:47

I have so many Pieces of advice

and like practical tips on

438

: 00:18:51

boundaries and everything.

439

: 00:18:51

I know that that's always a tough

topic Okay, this one's interesting.

440

: 00:18:57

Y'all secretly know

several languages JK JK.

441

: 00:19:01

Love y'all's whole love story.

442

: 00:19:05

I Don't I don't really know what this

whole thing means but If we're going

443

: 00:19:09

to focus on the languages, I mean, it's

not a secret, but I do know Spanish,

444

: 00:19:14

but and Trey and Trey's learning.

445

: 00:19:17

I'm trying to learn.

446

: 00:19:19

Yeah.

447

: 00:19:19

Mari's bilingual.

448

: 00:19:20

She's Colombian.

449

: 00:19:21

Yeah.

450

: 00:19:22

100 percent Colombian born in Bogota

and her whole family speaks Spanish.

451

: 00:19:26

So when I'm like, when we're

visiting them and home with them,

452

: 00:19:29

they're all speaking Spanish.

453

: 00:19:31

Um, so I've, I'm getting better.

454

: 00:19:34

We'd like to raise our children bilingual.

455

: 00:19:37

So I got to learn.

456

: 00:19:38

So he's got to learn or else we're just

going to talk about you behind your back.

457

: 00:19:41

Yeah.

458

: 00:19:42

Um, you do most of the cooking,

but Trey can make a mean brunch.

459

: 00:19:48

I want to know who said that.

460

: 00:19:51

Is that one of my friends?

461

: 00:19:52

No, it's not.

462

: 00:19:54

Um, this is a false.

463

: 00:19:57

We actually probably do the cooking 50 50.

464

: 00:20:00

I would say most of the time

we do the cooking 50 50.

465

: 00:20:03

Yeah.

466

: 00:20:03

And I, yeah.

467

: 00:20:05

I'm such a proud wife being able to say

that my husband does half the cooking

468

: 00:20:09

and it is Just as good as when I cook

and vice versa like we are at the same

469

: 00:20:15

Cooking level like he is so amazing Oh,

thank you and it's funny we talk about

470

: 00:20:21

this all the time like It's not that

we're chefs and it's not that trey's a

471

: 00:20:24

chef Although actually trey's probably

more of a chef than I am like you make

472

: 00:20:27

stuff up more than I do but like if

you Just know how to follow a recipe

473

: 00:20:31

like you too can make delicious food.

474

: 00:20:33

They cook.

475

: 00:20:34

Yeah.

476

: 00:20:34

Just follow the steps.

477

: 00:20:35

Yeah, like Ratatouille

said, anyone can cook.

478

: 00:20:40

You just follow the recipe.

479

: 00:20:41

So we really feel like it's not that hard.

480

: 00:20:45

So sometimes I'm confusing

people like, Oh no, I can't cook.

481

: 00:20:47

I'm like, well, can you read?

482

: 00:20:49

Yes, because if you can read

and you know how to use a knife

483

: 00:20:55

you can cook you can do it.

484

: 00:20:58

So Yeah, yeah, I mean like love

hate relationship with the recipes.

485

: 00:21:04

I always use them because I need

them Yeah, but I have to reread the

486

: 00:21:08

same freaking step like six times.

487

: 00:21:11

I know every single time I cook Yeah,

I read it I go grab the teaspoon and

488

: 00:21:15

then I go back and I'm like, teaspoon

or tablespoon, teaspoon or tablespoon.

489

: 00:21:18

Then I go grab the spice and I

reread it for the third time.

490

: 00:21:21

And then I like dip the spice

into the container and then I

491

: 00:21:24

rerouted it like a fifth time.

492

: 00:21:25

Just be like, teaspoon, tablespoon, which

spice, which bowl am I putting this in?

493

: 00:21:30

Yeah.

494

: 00:21:30

And it's just, it always takes me.

495

: 00:21:32

Like I'm a slow cooker.

496

: 00:21:33

I will say I'm a very slow cooker.

497

: 00:21:35

It's hilarious though.

498

: 00:21:36

It's kind of like when you're

boarding a plane, you look at your

499

: 00:21:38

boarding pass 500 times to make

sure you know what seat you're on.

500

: 00:21:41

And your brain like instantly

forgets what it reads.

501

: 00:21:45

And it's the same thing

when you're cooking.

502

: 00:21:47

It's like one tablespoon and you go

and you're like, was it one teaspoon?

503

: 00:21:50

Was it one tablespoon?

504

: 00:21:51

And it's like, you literally just read it.

505

: 00:21:52

So that happens to me all the time too.

506

: 00:21:53

And I don't know why our brains do that.

507

: 00:21:55

And it definitely makes cooking a

little bit slower, but in my opinion,

508

: 00:21:59

I feel like the recipes just let go

of so much, like mental load for me.

509

: 00:22:04

I don't like genuinely know how

to like make stuff up like that.

510

: 00:22:08

Like sure.

511

: 00:22:09

I could make rice and broccoli and

chicken, but like, that's not fun.

512

: 00:22:12

Yeah.

513

: 00:22:14

So we like to eat fun things.

514

: 00:22:15

Yeah.

515

: 00:22:16

With that, the kind of fun fact, Mari

and I don't repeat recipes hardly ever.

516

: 00:22:24

People are appalled

when we tell them this.

517

: 00:22:26

So we have a few cookbooks, but then we

just find stuff online and on Instagram.

518

: 00:22:31

And in our three and a half years of

marriage, this is what I was going to say.

519

: 00:22:34

If you want to say like in our

three and a half years of marriage.

520

: 00:22:38

We've repeated a handful of meals, maybe

like five recipes, maybe five to 10.

521

: 00:22:44

Yeah.

522

: 00:22:45

10 max, but like consistently repeat

maybe like five meals in our three

523

: 00:22:51

and a half years of being married.

524

: 00:22:53

And we eat three meals a day.

525

: 00:22:54

People.

526

: 00:22:55

Yeah.

527

: 00:22:55

That's a lot of meals.

528

: 00:22:56

I would say a lot of them

are like home cooked too.

529

: 00:22:58

Yeah.

530

: 00:22:59

Yeah.

531

: 00:22:59

Okay.

532

: 00:22:59

Let's exclude breakfast because that's

like eggs and toast and you can have that

533

: 00:23:03

a bajillion times a year, but like, Yeah.

534

: 00:23:06

But like lunches and dinners

and everything, we switch it

535

: 00:23:09

up pretty much every week.

536

: 00:23:10

So if you ever need a

recipe rec, shoot me a DM.

537

: 00:23:14

I got them.

538

: 00:23:16

Yes, we do.

539

: 00:23:18

Um, one of your best friends said

something, well, they were going to

540

: 00:23:22

say something, but then they didn't say

something, which I'm kind of upset about,

541

: 00:23:25

uh, Tyler goes, should I expose wags?

542

: 00:23:30

And I'm still waiting

for him to expose you.

543

: 00:23:33

So, um, by the way, choice.

544

: 00:23:36

Yeah.

545

: 00:23:37

Yeah.

546

: 00:23:38

Trey used to be called wax in high school.

547

: 00:23:41

So I still, still, yeah.

548

: 00:23:44

Okay.

549

: 00:23:44

Um, another one, you guys would be

such a fun couple to double date with.

550

: 00:23:50

You're right.

551

: 00:23:51

We absolutely, we absolutely would be.

552

: 00:23:53

So let's make that happen.

553

: 00:23:57

Um, someone says that you are super

Catholic and aren't secular at all.

554

: 00:24:01

You don't part, you

don't party or have fun.

555

: 00:24:06

Well, I am so sorry you get

this, this, uh, What's it called?

556

: 00:24:13

Assumption.

557

: 00:24:14

No, not Assumption.

558

: 00:24:15

Impression.

559

: 00:24:16

I am so sorry you get this impression

that I am not fun in any way.

560

: 00:24:22

Trey, would you like

to answer that, please?

561

: 00:24:23

I think you need to show more

of your fun side on the gram.

562

: 00:24:26

I think you do.

563

: 00:24:27

Okay.

564

: 00:24:27

I think we need a little

bit more unhinged Mari.

565

: 00:24:30

Unhinged Mari.

566

: 00:24:31

Unhinged Mari, I feel like

doesn't happen anymore.

567

: 00:24:33

She's so fun.

568

: 00:24:33

She is fun.

569

: 00:24:35

Um.

570

: 00:24:37

Yeah, well, I mean, do

you want to answer this?

571

: 00:24:40

Um, you know me best.

572

: 00:24:44

Where was it?

573

: 00:24:45

They are that you're super catholic.

574

: 00:24:47

Yes.

575

: 00:24:47

You are very catholic.

576

: 00:24:49

You aren't secular I would say there is

definitely secularism in you for sure.

577

: 00:24:54

Yeah.

578

: 00:24:54

Absolutely.

579

: 00:24:55

And I mean, like, this isn't, I mean,

I'm trying to like, this isn't something

580

: 00:24:58

that I'm like praising or condoning,

you know, like, like, do I like fashion?

581

: 00:25:06

Yes.

582

: 00:25:07

Do I listen to secular music?

583

: 00:25:08

Yes.

584

: 00:25:09

Like, do I watch some secular shows?

585

: 00:25:11

Yes.

586

: 00:25:12

Like, we're not going to

just only watch saint movies.

587

: 00:25:14

Right.

588

: 00:25:15

But am I careful about

the shows that I watch?

589

: 00:25:17

Like, do I watch Bridgerton?

590

: 00:25:19

No.

591

: 00:25:21

That's not good for you

592

: 00:25:25

And then aren't secular and

don't party slash don't have fun.

593

: 00:25:30

I have a lot of fun.

594

: 00:25:31

Thank you very much fun And I am

commonly described as zesty full of

595

: 00:25:36

life full of life life of the party Yes.

596

: 00:25:40

Yeah, I think That's something that,

I mean, that's what I was really

597

: 00:25:43

attracted to when I first met you was

just how fun and full of life you were.

598

: 00:25:48

Thanks.

599

: 00:25:49

So I would say that's definitely false.

600

: 00:25:51

Yeah.

601

: 00:25:52

And I mean, specifically,

yes, I love to party.

602

: 00:25:55

So let's clarify that because

while in my college days,

603

: 00:25:58

obviously I was not living a life.

604

: 00:26:00

Well, not obviously, but I

wasn't partying virtuously.

605

: 00:26:04

Right.

606

: 00:26:04

But once you learn how to do that

virtually, AKA, like you learn that,

607

: 00:26:09

like drink drunkenness is a sin.

608

: 00:26:12

And you just view like partying as like

social time with friends and drinking as

609

: 00:26:19

like, in addition to that, an enhancement,

not as like a crutch, you don't have

610

: 00:26:23

to be drunk in social situations.

611

: 00:26:26

So I love that.

612

: 00:26:28

Being social.

613

: 00:26:28

I love spending time with friends.

614

: 00:26:30

Love.

615

: 00:26:30

I love hosting a party.

616

: 00:26:31

I love going dancing.

617

: 00:26:32

I love going to parties and

celebrations and whatever, and

618

: 00:26:36

playing bangers on the Yes ox.

619

: 00:26:40

I love being on ox and you

just won't catch me drunk.

620

: 00:26:44

And you might be like, wow,

how is she having so much fun?

621

: 00:26:48

, you wish, man.

622

: 00:26:49

I don't know.

623

: 00:26:50

But you, you wish you were too.

624

: 00:26:52

Yeah.

625

: 00:26:52

Okay.

626

: 00:26:53

Two more that you have perfect

hashtag not hashtag that you have

627

: 00:26:57

perfect slash nontoxic family members.

628

: 00:27:01

Very interesting.

629

: 00:27:02

I don't even understand what

that's in like our family.

630

: 00:27:05

Is non tox?

631

: 00:27:07

Yeah, no, and I don't think they mean

non toxic as in like ingredients.

632

: 00:27:10

I think they mean like toxic family

dynamics or toxic families, like that you

633

: 00:27:15

have like perfect, beautiful families.

634

: 00:27:17

Gosh, man, no.

635

: 00:27:18

I would say like, again, like,

Obviously nobody is perfect.

636

: 00:27:22

Our families are not perfect.

637

: 00:27:23

Our family members are not

perfect and we're not perfect.

638

: 00:27:26

And we're probably inheriting some

of the things that we don't love

639

: 00:27:28

about our parents and our siblings

and all this stuff too, but we

640

: 00:27:32

have really healthy families.

641

: 00:27:33

That's the truth.

642

: 00:27:36

We talk about this often.

643

: 00:27:37

Like we feel really blessed

to have parents that are still

644

: 00:27:40

married to each other, that

love each other, that have had.

645

: 00:27:43

long, beautiful marriages that have

prioritized family first, that pour

646

: 00:27:47

everything that they have into their

children and want to create a healthy,

647

: 00:27:52

loving, supportive family environment that

we grew up in and still experience today.

648

: 00:27:57

Raised us in the faith and still

practice the faith themselves.

649

: 00:28:00

Um, our families.

650

: 00:28:02

Like, it's so fun to be with them.

651

: 00:28:05

Yeah.

652

: 00:28:05

We go on family vacations.

653

: 00:28:07

At least we try to every

year with our family.

654

: 00:28:10

Like whole family vacations, so.

655

: 00:28:13

We live 20 minutes from my family, we

see them at least once a week probably,

656

: 00:28:16

at least some family member of mine.

657

: 00:28:17

If not more, yeah.

658

: 00:28:18

At least once a week.

659

: 00:28:19

So, we love them.

660

: 00:28:20

Yeah.

661

: 00:28:20

We love our families, full, healthy

families, not perfect, but very blessed.

662

: 00:28:25

Yeah.

663

: 00:28:27

And then the last one I

realized we already answered.

664

: 00:28:29

It said that you both never

fight, which we already addressed.

665

: 00:28:33

So there you have it guys,

all your assumptions answered

666

: 00:28:38

with some context and more.

667

: 00:28:40

I hope that you got to know

us a little bit better.

668

: 00:28:42

Yeah.

669

: 00:28:43

I hope that was fun for you

guys to listen to on that.

670

: 00:28:46

And, uh, we'll be back

with Mari next week.

671

: 00:28:49

See ya.